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Single Parent Dating Checklist
Dating after a divorce, just the very idea can be daunting. It has probably been many years since you've been on a date and it's natural to be nervous. Perhaps your friends and family have been subtly (or not so subtly) encouraging you to move on and finally you are ready to do it. And although you don't know what to expect, you're excited about your decision to go back into the dating pool and you think everyone else will be too.
But will the kids feel the same way? Even if they seem to have adjusted to the divorce well, the concept of one of their single parent dating again may cause some mixed feelings. Some kids may harbor a secret wish for their parents to get back together. Other kids may be accustomed to having you for themselves and may not want to share you with some stranger. Even if the relationship with your former spouse was unhealthy, your children may feel that you are forcing them to choose between loyalty to you or to the other parent. On the other hand, some kids will be just as excited as you are. Your teenage daughter may offer to help you pick out the perfect outfit or your son may perk up at the prospect of someone new to hang out with.
According to Jean McBride, a licensed therapist for marriages and families, it is often easier for younger children to accept a new dating partner after their parents divorce because they don't have as many memories of the parents together as older children do. She recommends that you be honest with your children when you decide to start re-dating after your divorce and that you refer to your date as a "friend" with younger children, who may not fully understand and automatically think you're going to get married again.
Posted by eDatingCentral.com Jun 26, 2007 9:55 am
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